How to break your own heart (if it’s white)
"The Heart Center is deeply complex. We are going to look at ego conditioning. Now, if you look at the illustration here, we have a lot of material to cover, so let’s start down here with this word, because this word is enormously important: The threat of not proving one’s worth to one self or others. The threat; think about that.
You have an open ego; you have an open Heart Center. What is sitting there, the way in which the automatic defense mechanism of any open center, in this case the ego, the Heart Center, that the way in which the foundation is going to be established in the mind for the decision making process is that it’s going to be rooted in threat: The threat of not proving oneself. So, one of the things to think about what the Heart Center brings is that it’s the only center, in a sense, that says there are deep consequences for not following this decision. Deep, deep consequences. It’s a threat.
In the Heart Center we have our warrior capacity, we have our soldiers, and we have our savage. Every human being has a savage inside of them. You can find that savage living inside the Heart Center. It’s there. This threat of not proving one’s worth to oneself or others. You see, because it is a threat, the Holy Grail is to have the will and the skill to be able to go out there and prove one’s worth to oneself, and to others. And the cruel joke: based on what exactly?
What are the consequences of not proving one’s worth? A defined ego is not concerned with such things. It learns very early in life that if it can’t keep its word it will get punished; it’s just the way it is. There is this underlying threat that is part of the way in which the whole Heart Center functions. Think about the 40/37 and the bargain—the threat—there is an underlying threat in any agreement. Always: “If you don’t, if you aren’t, if you don’t follow the letter of this, if you do not demonstrate that you are loyal, if you do not”…well, threat.
And the 21? They’ll threaten you to your face. It is the control mechanism. “You do as I say, or you will be ostracized. You will be turned away; you will not be protected.” Threat. Most people, when they think about the Heart Center in Human Design, and I’m talking about those that are educated, this is not a word that comes to mind. But this is what it’s really all about. It’s a threat.
Let’s take a look at the way in which this works. First of all, trying to prove one’s worthiness—we all know that this is the whole thing about the undefined Heart Center to begin with. These are beings that basically consider themselves to be less worthy than others. My mantra to them all the time is, “You’ve got nothing to prove. You’re not designed to prove.” Only beings like me with very powerful ego centers spend their whole damn lives proving. I can tell you that it’s a burden. Years and years and years and years of teaching Human Design to prove that it is valid; this ongoing prove it, prove it, prove it. We still have things we have to prove. I’m always talking about having to prove it. But I’m an ego being. It is my nature. It is inherent in my will power to do so.
But if you have an open Heart Center you cannot go around trying to prove anything. There is nothing to prove. But, of course, wow, does that take awareness if you have an open Heart Center. Does it ever take awareness as an open Heart Center the oldest remedy I gave open Hearts was: Never make a promise. Don’t do it, because you’re going to break it. Maybe you don’t break this one, but you break the next one. The moment that you break the promise is the moment you break your own heart. You just do. It proves again how unworthy you are.
Think about Rave Psychology and understanding the deep impact. When you look at a client and a client has an undefined Heart Center they have real problems. Because one of the ways in which they make decisions is based on being unworthy. Think about that. Before you even start to say yes to anything, you’re starting from a foundation that says, “I am unworthy. These people think I can do this thing; well, I have to. This person thinks I can be their lover. I have to prove myself, or else.” Or else—the threat, it’s always there. They’re scared to death of that threat that’s there."
~Ra Uru Hu
Thanks Koen and Oleksandr
Unrelated, it’s just the first picture I came to in my phone. 🙃
I spent months trying to remember what this painting was called (have now forgotten again lol), so I couldn’t find it by regular search.
Grok found it in just a couple of prompts. What a relief for my open head 🤓