“One of the things to understand about what is to be a Projector, and what it is to be with other beings, you're not here to be with somebody ALL THE TIME.
This is something really to grasp about being a Projector. You need to distance.
You can have a nice long-term healthy relationship friend, lover, whatever the case may be, child whatever the case may be, but you need to see that you need to have your space and you need to be able to pull back.
Because if you don't pull back, you are being pulled deeper and deeper into the conditioning field. [and lose yourself]
Again, remember, you don't necessarily have the tools to distinguish when those relationships are getting to a point where you need to pull back.[not knowing when enough is enough - the Notself theme of the undefined sacral]
But, being able to see the conditioning, gives you a way out.
It’s very hard for Projectors to go like this, it's very hard to say, 'I need your generating and manifesting… BUT NOT NOW.'
There's this fear that you don't get it back, there's this fear that you’ll lose it.
There is this deep, deep drive inside to hold onto that connection no matter how you end up rationalizing that in your design.
So, it becomes very important for you to begin to see the way in which you are being influenced on an ongoing basis by those beings around you.
And remember why we see this. Not to end the relationship. This is not about that.
It's not about saying “this person is terrible for me and I never want to see them again”, it isn't about that at all.
It's about your potential, to actually see them conditioning you.”
[and it’s through this being able to witness, this passenger awareness, that we find our way back to ourselves. Nothing to “do”, but lots of movie to watch 🍿]
- Ra Uru Hu
via Phillip Redd
(Hilo, Hawaii, 2019)