AARQ (immediately wonders if this acronym will stick šš)
(AARQ - Andrea answering random questions)
Sometimes the things/words that come flowing off my fingertips - especially first thing in the morning - are so on point.
Hereās what I said a bit ago to a 6/2 splenic P with a defined ego and Guilt Motivation (ie she can see what needs fixing) who is grappling with letās call it, āretrainingā all of the generators in her life:
āYummy spleen, your notself solarplexus and you giving your fixing-seeing away for free (without the āwhatās in it for youā piece that defined ego requires)
Oh also if youāve been doing too much of the actual fixing vs letting them come to you as an oracle (offerings in hand because they recognize the value) and then leave so you can live your life ā¦
Sure, of course bitterness.
From what I can see, itās that undefined solarplexus that the Mind gets the most use out of for Splenic folks.
All this pressure to ābe niceā, ābe kindā, to DO all kinds of things to avoid confrontation in particular.
But deconditioning is confronting.
The only other choice is to stay trapped in those patterns.ā
āāāā
Possibly interesting side thing - I recognize the possibility of personal bitterness with people like this gal who I do show up for this way and has not ever really recognized the value herself.
Itās a funny catch 22 eh?
Gotta recognize value too. Sometimes you gotta recognize value to BE recognized as valuable.
Maybe thatās even close to an all the time thing. š¤
For me, I side step (most of - I can say a little more below) the bitterness by treating it as an exercise in collective sharing and seeing thereās value that can be leveraged if I spread whatever came out around.
Maybe could write a book tbh. š¤
And actually spreading it around isnāt even necessarily required (one of the most common answers to āwhy did you choose to work with me is basically, āI saw your comments in a FB group), but it does feel better to put my words places I can find them again vs FB.
And about this āmost ofā the bitterness gets side-stepped thing.
I can still see/feel a twinge of the bitterness of non-recognition every time my words donāt land for the person I think Iām serving in the moment.
I mean my Cross is literally delivered through my words. So it makes sense this could be a sticky place for me.
Key words there āpeople I think Iām servingā
The Mind just loves to mess with us eh?
Noticing for the win š š„³
Ooh update! Be sure to check out the comments below for her cool noticing about how she can tell her Mind is using her solarplexus š