Dear Projector, that is not an invitation 🤦🏻♀️
Recently, I’m waking up in the morning to posts on the large Projector group that basically start with
“Have an invitation but they’re not following through, what do I do?”
There were two back to back.
One yesterday and one today. I can go find the links so you can see how they played out if that’s helpful to you (would be helpful to me, but that’s thanks to my detail seeking design).
Here’s what I’m seeing - what some people are calling invitations are not actually invitations… these two examples anyway, had initiation that they didn’t even notice - way before the mushy grey edged “plans” they ended up with and Mind said “hmm, invite 👍🏽”.
Actually one of them was asking more like “what’s wrong with this invite” and the other one it turns out is so far from an invitation, I felt bad pointing it out.
And though I didn’t have any bitterness around the activity personally (seeing what questions are floating around - it’s a collective sharing entertainment for my Open head in the morning - it’s a bit like flipping on Netflix) …
I also recognize, having done this two mornings in a row now, that they aren’t my questions (though I did get a fun side recognition from another established projector “I love how you dig in and pull details out in these threads” or some such). 🥰
Yes, I have that super power.
BUT
They aren’t my questions to spend so much time and energy on -
1. because I also have not been recognized, and
2. beyond a comment here and there, it’s a waste of a precious resource.
My time and energy.
Which brings me to you. YOU are for spending my time and energy on :)
And I want to make sure that you know what an invitation is.
Both of these women, it turns out, had said something like “I want to spend time with you” (the second one didn’t even have a certain person in mind it seems like - just was in need of physical touch it seems - fair enough, but no invitation is coming in that state, self-care massage day or something ‘yo) …
And then they were upset/confused when the red carpet didn’t arrive.
🤦🏻♀️
Turns out that initiation was lurking beneath their seemingly straightforward questions.
But pulling out the details (ie Andrea working when she was appreciated in the end, but not really invited - ie. the will work for free zone 🤦🏻♀️) revealed a sneaky, hidden, overlooked immediately preceding “fishing for attention” something on their part that lead to the supposed “invitation”.
Oy vey.
And I would like to make sure that everyone here can recognize invitations.
The juicy projector kind.
Not whatever these ladies were calling invitations.
What does being invited look like to you?
I think the big ingredient that was missing in these two scenarios is recognition. And recognition flows both ways.
Projectors are here to be recognized and also to recognize- it’s a 2-way street.
Do you feel solid in your understanding of what an invitation is?
A projector invitation I mean.