[‘Dominance’ in human design is when one person in a connection chart has defined channel and the other person has that same channel open (white)]
“You don't enter into a relationship as yourself. You become the relationship characteristics. You become them. So, Dominance gives you a view. It gives you a view of the consistency of the being you're connected to. More than that, this is where you have the deepest potential learning from a partner. In other words, somebody who has a definition in some area that you don't have, that brings the opportunity of really understanding that process.
It's consistent, it's always there, and you get access to it. Again, there is a real dilemma about the characteristics of a partnership. How you're going to function in the partnership goes back to how you're going to operate yourself. If you're not operating correctly, the characteristics in the partnership are not going to work properly. It just isn't. And Dominance is something that can be like the sound of its name. Dominance can end up being something very, very uncomfortable.
You end up with a partner who has a specific orientation in a certain way and you can never escape it. It's always there, it's always in your face, it's always in your body, and you always have to deal with it. One side of that is, "I'm not like that, why should I deal with that?" And the other side is, "Isn't that fascinating, look how that person deals with that." And that's the way that person is always going to deal with that.
So when somebody comes up to you and asks you about your partner, if you're talking about their Dominance you're going to talk about something that is going to be recognized by others, because you're really seeing their definition. In many ways, this can be a very rewarding aspect in a design, to be able to see your partner.
Now of course, we're dealing with binaries and sometimes it doesn't work both ways. Sometimes you have somebody, because of the genetic attraction, who is very open connecting to somebody who is very defined and then you end up in those situations where you can have a lot of Dominance and it can be quite uncomfortable.
There are all kinds of varying degrees of it. But when Dominance is something that can be a commonality, this is one of the ways in which you can get partners to actually see each other, even if it's just an aspect of their design, but really see their uniqueness in those aspects.”
- Ra Uru Hu
via Chaitanya HD