Alok via Chaitanya -
“Now 35% of us, we have a defined Heart. We are always egoistic. But we are not necessarily transparent about it.
We are afraid of being too much, of being too egoistic or not being egoistic enough.
My own ego is emotional. So some days I feel so good, I want to give everything out for free. They need it, I have it, it doesn’t cost me much... so, Okay, why not give it away, right?
But then the next day, it is me who needs something. And nobody looks at me like and says: "oh, he needs something, and I have it, so let me give it to him."
No, nobody does, and then my emotional ego goes, “what kind of friends are these?” “What kind of family is this?” “What kind of people are this?” “Why do they act as if they only know me when I am doing something for them?”
And if I ask for something, “oh, sorry I’m busy,” yeah, maybe you get some nice words.
You see, if you have a defined ego, everybody thinks that you don't need anything. And they think this way because you make sure they think in this way.
You make sure that nobody thinks you need anything from them. You make sure they need you.
You don’t need them because you are strong and they are weak, you have and they don't have.
When I met Ra Uru Hu, I felt like I am meeting egoism for the first time.
Mamamia. That was a pure egoist, I tell you, even scary sometimes. How he would just let people make fools of themselves, and not care. Not care at all.
Sometimes he would scare me. But sometimes I would just see how I'm still playing nice with people. Yeah, okay give me some of your suffering. I understand you.
A little bit. I could see how much I was still compromising with people's trips. I could see how impure I was in my egoism. How unclear and unstraight. How afraid I was that people could think that I´m insensitive, or that I’m just a materialistic person.
That’s what I did in all these years, purifying my own heart. If you tell me now: "you are an egoist", I’m going to say yes with a big smile on my face. I'm not ashamed anymore of being an egoist.
Because I don't want what is not mine. I only want what is mine. And what is mine is mine. And you have no business in it. And what is not mine I want no business in it.
It's how it should be. You handle your life. Let me handle my life.
And you see willpower does not just appear in the Heart center. It is fueled by emotions. It is fueled by fear. It is fueled by love. Or it is fueled by matter.
But the fuel is always the same. It's called need. It is the materialization of the needs of the body. I need to eat. I need to feel protected. I need a bed to rest tonight and feel protected from the environment. I need to find love.
Because the human heart is savage. It's only because of love that we can be a beautiful savage. A loving savage. Someone who can kill. Someone who can love.
That’s all of us. We just never found ourselves in the circumstances. Unusual circumstances. Most human beings make sure that never happens.
You see, the Heart center is wild. Wild, very wild. It is the most uncivilized part of our human nature.
You cannot tame the heart. The heart is here to learn to tame life. Like life is a horse. And you know how to ride it. You know how to walk the way. You know how to let life carry you. In your vehicle. It's about surrender. Surrender to life. Surrender to need. Need…
What do you need?
You don't choose what you need. You need it or you don't.
If you have a defined heart, you have to know what you need. If you pretend you need nothing, you are going to be fighting with power games. Dependence. Independence.
Who is more dependent? I need you but you need me more. So you have to swallow my conditions because you need me more. I have less to lose if we break up.
This is how we use love. It is a power game. Sex is power. We use everything we know about others. It is power against them. We don't know why we do it. We just do it. It's a black hole in the psyche, deep black hole.
Human beings are ashamed to need. Men especially!
If you're a woman, it's okay. You can be needy and cry. It is seen as distortion. It's considered that if you're a man, you are more egoistic. If you are a woman, you are more altruistic.
Yeah. It is simply not true.
We have very altruistic males. We have very egoistic females. As a matter of fact, we are all here to be both. The fact that I'm an egoist and that I always like to take care of my needs first, does not mean that when my needs are met, I don't like and enjoy offering the best of me to anybody, literally anybody.
You don't have to deserve it. You just need to be human. And I'm ready to respect you. It does not matter how smart or stupid you are. The fact that you are human reminds me of my own stupidity, enough to respect you.
No matter what place you occupy in the material hierarchy because if you have a defined ego, you're less likely to be fooled by those things. Status. It's the heart after all.
And in my case it's the heart fueled by social sensitivity. Or instinctive memory. Every stream, every channel of the Heart is fueled by these two streams of awareness.”
~Alokanand Diaz