"What it comes down to is the recognition and acceptance of the other for what they are. I think this is the deepest level we come to in Human Design, in regards to our relationship to the other.
We can never truly know the other and we can never truly be one with the other. That's not the way it works in the Maia.
However, we can truly accept the other. This is the real beauty.
Acceptance for another human being is not something that you can just do. It really isn't, because you can see that in the complexity of any interaction between human beings, there can always be things that are very difficult to deal with.
But the moment you can see somebody and see that they are not responsible, it's not their fault…
For me, the first realization I had at the very, very beginning of my process was to let go of thinking that somehow my mother and my father were responsible in some way for something that should have been different.
To let go of the blame and fault and all of those things that connect so deeply to us.
I saw their helplessness.
I saw their helplessness as I see the helplessness of all beings.
That with their design, with their not-self, with the conditioning of their culture, there was nothing else they could have been.
They did what they could with what they had. They struggled along as everyone in the not-self realm does.
The moment you can see the helplessness of another human being and can accept their helplessness, then you can accept their helplessness with real dignity and hopefully the respect will be returned.
This is the bedrock for me.
The bedrock is the integrity of a human being to recognize how important it is that you're correct, that love is not something you need or you want or you desire, but love is a natural companion in this life. And it begins within yourself."