John has been gone since Saturday. Said he’d be back the next day. The next day it was “see you tomorrow the next day, I dunno” - which is so much healthier for his undefined ego.
And our relationship.
I suspect he’ll wander back by Tuesday (he’s at that annual camping mini music fest thing - search ‘camping’ or ‘Boo’ and you might find past posts about it).
He’s the only person I know who can turn a 3 day event into a 10 day event 😜
And thank goodness he and I are both fine with him doing it - without me 🙌🏽
So about this Ra passage - my husband John and I both have simple (one Gate) split definitions.
His chart bridges my splits more than once.
Mine doesn’t bridge his splits at all.
You would think, on the surface, that would be a “problem”, that it wouldn’t ‘work’.
That doesn’t explain how we live.
Or why, if you only took this one idea into consideration, it seems as if he lives as a single definition.
Of course more than that is at play here.
That’s the great thing about having discovered HD at a point where there’s lots of history together (this part is my split definition seeing this I suppose lol) to feed my hindsight.
Could be my Gates 47 too have this “hindsight is valuable” perspective.
Or my Fear Motivation which operates ideally on details.
And details over time, perhaps particularly with emotional authority - which only can gain clarity with multiple moments of time coalescing … delicious.
I see how our profiles play an enormous role too.
We are not harmonic profiles to each other. I have a 1/3 chart and he a 2/4.
Circuitry also - huge.
30+ years together later and I have the fodder for quite the awareness experiment. I’m in year 10 🍿
Much is explained and continued expansion for grace is all I see.
Acceptance of self - mine AND his.
In the end, though it really comes down to how’d we come to be doing this relationship thing.
As serendipity would have it - correctly.
We bumped into each other thanks to his 4th line Networky ways, my 19/49 answered his resource needs call, he responded to/ recognized me, I got invited, we were barely apart after that and 9 months later, our first baby was born.
Yeah there’s also quite some electromagnetic action in the mix 😄
I won’t say it’s all been smooth sailing, because that would be a lie.
But also, this idea that “bridging a gate” is the be all and end all - well, it’s not the whole story. No one thing in our chart tells the whole (potential) story.
Only life can show us that.
What I think HD does so well though is show the why behind the differences. And offer this possibility for acceptance. Or deeper acceptance.
I think that’s one of the things I love best about having HD available for - to be able to guide others to that acceptance and grace for both ourselves and the other.
I’ll add our connection chart in the comments, and can point out some other things if that’s interesting.
Or maybe ask questions. That’s always helpful for knowing what direction to share in 🤗
Maybe my Right Mind will have something at the ready or maybe my 1st line gets stirred into investigation or my open head entertains the possibilities (my view) and feeds my Outer Authority with unexpected results for your Mind.
Or maybe not :)
🤷🏻♀️😂🤗
Either way, I appreciate you. ☺️
“You have to understand that most of us are not designed for the very thing that is the foundation of the way in which we function on this plane.
We’re not. And people love to talk about things like monogamy and this and that.
Single definitions—it’s like, what good are they anyway? You’re a single definition, talk about a failed relationship. They’re incredible to listen to.
Truly, male or female, they’re truly incredible to hear because they didn’t need them in the first place. Even though the illusion is that they're supposed to need them. They didn’t need them. They don’t know anything about how you do that.
Why do you think so many relationships—there is so much difficulty in relationships.
If you think about the fact that 46% of humanity is a split, a basic split, that means that basically 92% of humanity has a chance to bond. The rest are sort of out there, never going to really make it.
And the reality is that it doesn't even get to be that much because those split definitions tend to look for each other, because then they both have this sense of wholeness.
“You make me whole. You make me whole. You make me whole.” Oh, how nice.
All my years of teaching, there is one thing that I cannot stand and that’s generalizations, the way in which the relating is propagandized on this plane.
The way there is supposed to be a certain way in which we are there for the other. It’s not true.
And it’s a minority of us on this plane who are really designed for it, and when you think about it, because of the nature of the not-self, it turns out to be a real disaster.
So, you’re a split definition and you’re with a single definition and you’re pissed, you're trying to work it out and working it out is not important for the single definition.
It’s something you tell them that is important, but that’s not something that's important inside of them at all.
It’s like, “What is he or she rapping on about? Work on what?”
If it wasn't for split definitions, the psychological psychiatric partnership bullshit programs would never exist. Never.
It's all these splits saying that “The relationship has to work, let's go see Dr. Doo Doo, or whatever. We’ll work it out.”
And you can see the split definition dragging by a leash the single definition into the therapy session. “This is something that should be really important for you.” No, it’s not.
This is the whole thing. It’s one of things we really don't understand.
We’ve got 41% of the planet that is single definition. We’ve got 11% that are triple-split definition. They don’t care. Their relationship doesn't work; trash that and try a new one. It’s just that simple.
Single definition—I don't have any attachment to that. I’m not connected to that. There’s nothing inside of me that says I have to have that or I’ve got to fix that. As a matter of fact, it’s all a pain. I’m going to get rid of it; basta.
[Meanwhile] The split definition is sitting there saying, “Don't go. We can work it out.”
The single definition says, “Work out what? What is it exactly we're going to work out?”
[passage via Chaitanya - photo credit unknown]
"Some ideas take decades"
This is pretty inspiring. She reckons she's finally finished her apprenticeship at 70 💜
Fun add-on HD irl example - this was shared in Vanessa's group on FB, The Art of Being You by another appreciative group member (thank you Kathrin 🤗), and I first watched it a few hours ago.
I immediately thought what a great share it would be in here 🤩 but it landed pretty quickly on my 'roundtooit list.
Maybe to get shared here, maybe not. Tbh, the hold up was that I didn't really want to share a FB link in here, so I was looking (investigating) around to see if it was on another platform.
Hadn't found it yet.
Then it turns out that @NaimR wasn't able to view it from Canada (someone is blocking it for Canada ? wha?) and she said as much on the thread in Vanessa's group.
And you know what kicks in?
My Design (19/49 and Markets internal in particular), which had me heading this way anyway - at some point ... maybe... but I always get a little boost of focus from ...
There were three roller coasters 🎢 we had on or radar for the last hour before the rides closed.
Wasn’t to be, but we did find this nice place to sit and wait out the deluge that started right after we grabbed a great smoked BBQ supper.
And ooh it cooled everything off perfectly. And gave us some rest before we found our way back to the car (which was parked on the very first row of priority parking 🥳)
Ahhhh nothing to do, so much nothing to do 🥳🥰🍿
FB prompts a reel, so I make a reel 🤷🏻♀️
One thing I got to really see again -
(discovered this a couple years back when I was doing dot mandala art and attempted a 24x24” canvas - it’s still not done 🤓)
With Emotional Authority, the whole “no truth in the Now” is so undeniable when it comes to making art.
And the longer it takes the more obvious it is.
Example - the first version in this reel, … I was actually feeling pretty great about it right after it was filled in and drying. But as you can see - it’s barely anything (and taking a picture of it helps cut through the wave I think - it’s easier to see more objectively somehow).
The second layer goes on and I’m like - omg - that’s different, maybe a hair better, but …. Nah. 😅
Then (there were hours and days between these steps) … I started just playing with it, I mean, nothing to lose, right?
I did reference a few of the pieces I’d done back during Zentangle season, was so so helpful to have those saved in ...
This is a post and audio from @BeyondBeautiful - Valerie Montgomery, Self Projected Projector
"I wanted to make this breakfast and found myself rushing.
Now, you might be interested to know I have Alternating Determination, which means I need to do things “One Thing At A Time,” which turns out to be the title of the song I made up to shift the energy of starting to make this breakfast.
I also have an Undefined Root, so it always feels like I need to get rid of the pressure. Also known as feeling rushed to do things.
It would have been lovely to have my cat fix my breakfast, and I had the time, so..
Also being Self Projected my authority comes out through my speaking, or in this case, singing."
Great awareness and share, thank you Valerie! 💜Not sure that's the right title for this, but it's what came out so I'm rolling with it.
This story began in a FB group. Where many of my stories do.
I can't actually remember the thread or how we ended up in messenger, but the reason we did was because 5/1 Projector with Gate 1 on an undefined G center ... had music of hers to share but hasn't been able to share it so far.
Am still waiting to see if the rest of the story gets shared with me.
So she asked me what sort of music I liked and did I want something more abstract (I think it was) or a vocal cover. I chose vocal cover and she picked this one.
I felt it to my core.
Not sure if part of that was related to some of what she'd already (not intentionally) told me ... 5th line folks can take a lot of patience to draw out - that's been my experience so far anyway.
Some feel interesting enough to spend the energy on :) That's true here.
A kind of sidenote to this is that both my Uranus Opposition (40ish yo) and Chiron (50ish yo) charts carry a 3/5 and it feels like, though I'm not a 5th line - I do sort of get ...
Somehow it had not registered for me that Mark has 16/48 in his chart 🧐
I do too.
Ironically my 16.5 (literally keynoted ‘the Grinch’) is struggling to read this version of it he shares.
I guess it’s a good reminder of the “or not” possibility, particularly in the 5th line of any gate perhaps 🤓
Practice yes! With enthusiasm…. mmmm 🤔 (and it also doesn’t come from the Mind. It’s a body movement to repetition in my experience).
And in what direction 🤷🏻♀️ here we also differ greatly I suspect, my G being Open and his being defined.
He also has a defined Will, which I think allows for clearer/more consistent dedication to a direction once on a particular trajectory. I could be mistaken but … ‘tis my current observation.
Hmm 🤔 actually it could be the absoluteness of the first premise he attaches here that’s bringing a near instant head cock from me.
Like I can’t quite hear it and my possibility view rejects this “need’ statement of absoluteness (as in ‘must’).
‘Needs to ...
“Every Projector is here to build its human environment.
Actually every Projector is looking for a perfect Penta.
For a Projector to have five correct people in your life, and it doesn’t mean they all have to be there at the same time, is something that is very, very important.
It is a powerful counterbalance against those forces that will try to pull you away from what is correct for you.
Until Projectors are actually creating [HD] motivationally viable environments, human environments, they cannot awaken.
That’s the challenge.
That’s why you have the gift for recognition.
That’s why the intellectual potential that lies within you to understand and to be able to interpret and implement system knowledge is so profound.
Because it means that you really have to know your stuff. And you really have to have the keys.
You really have to see just as the Generator can awaken through the rigidity of its respect of its Sacral; a Projector can only awaken with the rigidity of respecting its own aura and what...
Sometimes a meme can bring a concept straight to the point. My 39.5 heartily approves. 🥰
Also, my emotional authority, though Ra doesn’t even point to this mechanic in this passage, also is well reminded. 🤗
"I think it really became popularized with Baba Ram Dass, this 'be here now.'
And I think that like so many concepts that become generalized, it's something that's really not understood and because it's not understood, a lot of people suffer as a result of it.
It seems like a valid concept, that is, we are here now in a sense, and to be here now is something that seems to be what the story is about.
Unfortunately, though philosophically it sounds really nice, if you look at the mechanics in Human Design, you see very clearly that there are certain people that are designed to be so called 'existential' people.
That in the purest sense are here to ‘be here now’.
Particularly, for example, integration people with expressions through the 20th Gate, or people with the Channel 46 - 29 which has a ...
Yesterday, @mellijae shared a graphic from 64Keys and it reminded me that there's a hashtag in here for #theplanets
Here's a direct search link -
https://planetandrea.locals.com/?search=%23theplanets
If you're interested in planetary placements in your chart - those 11 posts are a great place to begin. :)
by Richard Rudd
"There is one big key to understanding Projectors, and it can only be found by looking at the bigger picture.
We know that statistically, Projectors make up 21% of the population. That means that for every five people, more or less, there is one Projector.
Those are interesting numbers, especially when they are considered within the context of how Gene Pools operate.
There is a mysterious circuit within the Bodygraph that is curiously known as the WA. The WA holds the secret to the choreography of all human gene pools.
One day, when these aspects of Human Design are explored in more depth, we will be able to see how groupings of individual designs come together in the same way as cells bind together to create the organs within our bodies.
For those who baulk at the idea that we have no choice, this is frightening stuff.
The WA shows how different human designs are collectively organised and herded together to perform certain functions within the greater body of humanity.
Imagine then, that humanity is a body like your own body. There are only 4 types of cells, each with their own sub-programming.
At one extreme, you have a small amount of ‘rogue’ cells, independent bodies that are designed to operate outside the loop of the mainframe programming. Ironically however, these manifestor cells are just as dependent upon the whole as any other type. They are simply programmed to appear independent.
At the other extreme, you have a tiny percentage of early-warning cells – these unusual cells have no programming of their own but are designed to take accurate readings of any cellular environment they move through.
In every sub-culture you will find a few of these cells reflecting the health of the local environment. Their role is to warn the overall intelligence of the body of any potential disruptions to the organism. They are called reflector cells.
The bulk of the cellular life of the body (91%) is made up of the two most common kinds of cell – generator cells and projector cells.
These 2 types are designed to interlock with each other. The generator cells collectively create the life of the organism. They are pure energy cells buzzing day and night, maintaining and building the whole.
Projector cells are unique. They have no propulsion of their own, so they drift around on the endless energy currents created by the generator cells.
You might imagine how easy it would be for a projector cell to feel that it had no purpose within the body.
However, each projector cell actually has a very specific purpose (some have more than one), but that purpose can only be realised when certain energy cells (generators) dock in with the projector cell to receive instructions.
Since the projector has no propulsion, it is powerless to initiate this process, but has to allow the generator cells to recognise them and dock in within their own timing. This recognition process takes place through a coded lock and key programme built into these 2 types at birth.
In other words, every projector holds multiple keys that fit an enormous array of locks. When a key does not fit a lock it is very obvious!
Through the knowledge of the WA, we know that the basic genetic unit is 5. These human groupings of mainly generators and projectors are also known as ‘Pentas’.
The nuclear family is a family of five.
Statistically, that is four generators and one projector. As an archetype, the role of this fifth projector is to maintain the stability of the 4 generators.
Right, this next part is where it gets spooky, so hang on to your seats and try and stay with me!…
Just as this fifth projector draws together the 4 generators to form a penta, this penta then takes on a life of its own. It also seeks something greater to dock into, and this is known as an OC16.
Pentas (groups of 5 human beings) seek out another projector, known as an alpha. Alpha projectors naturally dock together with three pentas, making 16 people (including the alpha).
The moment you have 16 people together, you actually have the foundation of an entire gene pool, which then continues to grow exponentially.
Right. I am going to stop there. Whether you were able to follow any of that or not, I am trying to make a point – which is that if you are a projector, you are genetically coded to have others (specifically generators) recognise you and approach you.
This is the foundation of the success of humanity as a species. The projector’s role is pivotal for life to be coherently organised.
But there is a great irony to it all for the projector – which is that there is nothing for them to do until they are recognised.
Every projector knows when the key fits. Every cell in their body lights up.
They also know when it only ‘sort of’ fits.
Those are the critical moments for projectors. If the fit is not perfect, they have to smile sweetly and turn away.
So how long does a projector have to wait? Well, forever.
There is a deep secret for projectors going through their deconditioning – that is, waiting itself transforms the cells.
The relief of not trying to make keys fit when they do not want to fit, releases a huge pressure from the projector’s life.
But it is also clear from my own experience of observing projectors that they are not always able to immediately throw away keys that do not fit.
Sometimes those keys may provide their livelihood, and they have to hold on to them until they find the correct keys to replace them. That takes courage – to wait knowing something is wrong and you are powerless to change it.
I have a vast admiration for any projector going through their deconditioning, and I have also learned that I can never move forward in life without the presence of projectors in key roles around me.
Projectors, if you cannot be patient, there is no hope for any of us…"
This is a little outside of my 'care' zone, but can see the things we've trusted faltering.
I think Human Design is here to offer people awareness to be able to weather what would otherwise feel like impossibly stormy times.
Lucky us 🤗
Also, what a cool picture Chaitanya found 😍
- A
"The knowledge was given so that human beings could be equipped to live in an age in which there was nothing they could trust.
This is what the Cross of Planning has brought us. It’s brought us an age of, within reason, trust.
That the trains will run on time, that the electricity will be there, that all of those things will work, that our children will have teachers in their schools, that the garbage will be picked up and on and on and on.
All the things that the Cross of Planning has brought us, the institutionalization of science and the spreading of all kinds of technologies that enhance the potential for the increase in human population, the increase in the potential of the gene pool, the increase in the potential for the unusual, the mutative.
Human Design is not about the time of the Cross of Planning. Human Design knows the plan. It’s not about that at all. It's about bringing the possibility of the richness of life to the next generation.
If the stellar family teaches us anything it’s that even the gods, even the remotest forces in the stream are concerned about the generations and the movement of information.
There are certain stars in the sky that could not exist until other stars had died. The fact that human beings and certain brain functions, elements in our brain, that can only exist after the death of stars, we are so deeply connected to them. We live very close to one. That is our shelter and our light."
- Ra Uru Hu
