Mechanical Sameness is Comfortable, Relatable
Laetitia shared -
✨ The Passenger is interested in sameness : the way we meet in the comfort of sharing defined centers ✨
“The passenger is interested in sameness. The passenger wants somebody who will sit with it in the back seat and just enjoy the ride together.
That way, when there is something interesting to the left that both their heads turn at the same time and they both see the same thing and enjoy it. You only get that with sameness.
The way this plays out practically is through the centers.
[For example]
If you are an Ego being, and approximately 35% of humanity has a defined Ego, you're going to discover that it's difficult to be around Not-Self undefined Egos. They're a pain in the neck.
But how easy it is to be with another defined Ego, because the Ego is never the subject or the problem.
It's like being an Emotional person with an Unemotional person.
Yes, if you have an open Emotional System, both pain and pleasure have their attraction. But sooner or later, you're going to hate the situation as much as you love it.
However, when two Emotional beings are together, the Emotions are not the point.
It is much easier for an Emotional person to be with another Emotional person and not have to deal with these cool Unemotional people who, most of the time, can't express their feelings - and even when they manage to, their feelings are overboard and out of control.
It can be a weird feeling for a defined G Center to be around an undefined G, because from the defined G's perspective, you never know who those people are.
But the moment that you're with another defined G, identity is no longer the point.
If you have a defined identity and you’re with somebody who has a defined identity, identity is not a problem. Identity is not disturbing. Identity is not a question, and identity becomes a theme of comfort and relaxation.
If you have two beings that are adrenal [defined root], they take great comfort in their both being adrenal. It’s a real connection between them because they have the same kind of power source within them.
It’s like me with ego beings. I love being around ego beings. I’m such a big ego, and I love being around ego beings because they don’t have a problem with my ego. They have big egos too. It’s great.
Now, we can all walk around with big egos and we don’t care. Everybody else does. “Look at those big egos.”
But if you have an ego and it’s defined and you’re with an ego person that’s defined, you don’t have an ego problem. You don’t. There’s this, “They’re like me.”
It’s like emotional people together. You bring emotional people together and emotion isn’t in the story. It isn’t. But you bring somebody with a defined emotion together with somebody with an undefined emotion. Boy, do you have a story! All that rocking and rolling on the wave, amplified…
No matter how different Alok’s defined ajna center is to mine [Alok is Ra’s friend, Spanish translator and long-time student of Design - Laetitia], we both have defined ajnas.
They’re very, very different in the way they work, very different in the way they’re connected, but I’m comfortable with his fixed mind. I’ve got a fixed mind, too.
When I’m with an open mind, I know how different that is because I’m immediately aware of the fact that there is an amplification business going on. I can tell right away, and so mind becomes a dilemma. It just becomes a dilemma in the relationship because it’s not comfortable. The not-self says, “Oh, I like that.” Yeah, yeah…
Every undefined mind I know that gets suckered into a defined-mind-relationship really ends up in trouble, mentally conditioned all the time. Again, I’m talking about the not-self [without mechanic pressure awareness].
He [Alok] has an undefined self. I don’t. I don’t identify with him that way. That’s not where I’m comfortable with him.
Alok has a defined ego; so do I. So, I know that his mind and his ego are something I’m comfortable with. He’s got a defined spleen. So do I. Those are the three centers that we have in common. That’s the basis of our relationship. It’s the basis of it.
So when you look at charts, remember, for me it’s all just simple, visual stuff. [🙌🏽🥳]
When you look at a chart and you see two charts together, look right away what centers do they have in common.
It tells you so much about where you can start from in a relationship and the place you can go to when you’re in trouble.
I can’t work out my problems with him emotionally. He can’t work them out through my identity.
We can work them out mentally. We can find ways in our three centers where we meet where we can find that there’s no tension. There’s no tension.
I know what it’s like to be given gates and themes of love and then you’re looking at this and that: this connection and that connection, blah, blah, blah.
Before you get there, look at the centers in common and you will see right away where you can work with them.
My eldest son has three defined centers; two of them I don’t have. The only thing we have in common is our identity. It’s the only place we meet.
So that’s always going to be the foundation of our relationship. It’s always going to be where our relationship is. It’s in the self. It’s there. It’s not in his sacral or his emotions, because that’s not me.
When you know where the basis of a relationship is, where you know where the core of that relationship is, then you can begin to see what’s solid and what can be reinforced, despite all the things that are there...
And when I say that, please take this in correctly.
This is not a pressure on you to look at the world around you and say, “Oh, I’ve got problems because my partner has all these things that I don’t have.” It’s really not the point. It’s really not the point.
It’s not about changing that.
You’ll see that if you live out your true nature, and you’re awake now, with the way your genes operate, you’re still going to be attracted to the opposite.
The advantage that you have is that because you can enter into [this] correctly and you know what it is, it’s not as disturbing or the damaging conditioning that the not-self [otherwise] experiences all the time.”
| Our dude, Ra
| Snatched from Yenal