Was having a little chat with one of our PlanetAndrea Locals peeps earlier.
Just this and that, it started with a detail or two about HD variables (often true it’s where convos begin for me most recently)
But it never matters where a conversation begins, because with this Unexpected Cross of mine - second guessing where the jewel of the interaction might actually be - impossible.
Literally impossible. 😂
So today, it started out in one place, and ended with what might be a decent sized ah hah for both of us.
More useful to her maybe, ‘cause for me, being a 3rd line profile - is life... but from the outside looking in ... turned out I had some nuance to offer.
So here’s the gist, in case anyone else might find it useful.
She was remarking something along the lines of how tough it was watching 3rd line folks struggle with the idea of “failing their way to success”
Which made me pause for a sec.
‘Cause “success” is maybe the outcome at some point. But really that’s not the point.
I said hmmm 🤔 it’s more about “failing so you get wiser .... ‘cause not failing leaves you at stupid”
“And you have to be able to laugh at yourself along the way”
Then came the real ah hah.
She said something that reminded me of something I notice in a lot of people’s posts - that frankly, drives me straight up a tree.
Commiseration.
It would seem like commiseration is a kind thing, is a righteous thing even.
But here’s an idea to chew on.
What if commiseration, sitting in feelings, dwelling, replaying “mistakes” is actually holding 3rd (and young 6th line) profile folks back from the next trial and error?
I dunno, maybe it’s just me ...
But I much prefer a direct -
“whelp, so that happened 🙄🤦🏻♀️👀😂 ... anything broken? No? okay good”
Over what feels like a bunch of fawning and commiseration.
“Gah! that sucks!! What’s next?”
Supports me along in my wisdom track far better.
The other just feels yuck.
It can be tolerated. But I can definitely see how it’s a toleration.
There’s a flavor of impatience in me for that sorta thing.
Interesting eh?
PS. Been granddog sitting for a little over a week & this little goofball finally went home last night. Yay! 🤗