At the heart of relationship distortion … Mind
I suppose it’s my Fear motivation and 1st line Personqlity (both like to get to the bottom of things) love Ra passages like this. Passages that cut straight to the point.
And then we (anyone with any Design) can take something like this, like a tool in a toolbox, and pull it out to use/consider anytime for any scenario.
Or not :)
“At the deepest levels of Human Design there really is an incredible thing that you discover.
It’s something that arises in which we experience the other, [we discover] that we are designed to uniquely experience each being.
[You can discover] it’s not set, the way you experience one person compared to the way you experience another person.
It’s always a unique formula.
Each other being in that sense carries in their presence something that is really profound for us. Most of the time we’re not paying attention. We’re not.
Everything about the potential of the nine-centered being is to operate correctly in order to be able to have true communion with the other, the expression of outer authority, the capacity that is inherent in us to be able to communicate our truth to the other and to have the other communicate their truth to us, the pure communion at the intellectual and spiritual level.
You don’t get there if you can’t let go.
[And] the “let-go” is [of] a measurement game.
You have to let go of that measuring the other [that is] in order to put them this place or that place; to influence them this way and that way.
It [measurement] only meets resistance. It only creates turmoil.
We’re designed to truly be at ease with the other if we just accept what happens to us when we are with them.
There's no mystery in that. There isn’t.
It's all very easy to see. You can see precisely, we can go deeper and deeper and deeper into this story here of these [any] two beings and we can see all those mechanisms.
It’s the mind. It’s always the mind that’s the problem. It’s always the mind that gets in the way.
It’s always the mind that distorts what’s actually happening.
And it’s blind in that way. It does not see.”
via Chaitanya, Cathy Simons and Rae Mercedes