“So important to recognize what the third line of breaking bonds is all about. It does not mean the bond cannot be made again. It doesn’t, it just means that there must be space. Intimacy that is 3rd line intimacy requires space.
I have a partnership with a 59.3, it has lasted 15 years. I have been away about 11 of them. It works, no joke it works.
Bonds made and broken otherwise the relationship could not survive. If you get to the point where the bond is broken and you go out the door and you say, “this is over I never come back,” you never come back. That’s not what it is.
It is I have had enough of you for now I am going and when I come back it will be great again.
[lol John and I do this multiple times a day - A]
And then I will have enough of you for now, and I will go away and come back and it will be great again.
And then I will have enough of you for now [again].
If you live according to your mechanics you can have a relationship regardless of any kind of design.
And that so many beautiful relationships, relationships that can have enormous value to you in your life, you abandon out of that lack of understanding.
You abandon because you blame, you abandon because you criticize and want change.
Whenever you are with a partner that you are unhappy with you are also unhappy with yourself.
You don’t think you have the right partner for you because you think you are supposed to be somebody else who has a different kind of partner.
You don’t see yourself and you don’t see the other. You don’t accept yourself, you don’t accept the other.
Every time you say, “you shouldn’t have,” “you could have,” “you might have,” ”why can’t you,” all of these common, common phrases in relationships, what is there is a total lack of respect.
A total lack of acceptance of the holiness of an individual.
You are what you are, everybody wants to be left alone with what they are, but rarely do they leave anybody else alone.
It is a two-way street.
So the relationship that works is a relationship that is based on understanding the nature of your partner, so that you can accept that nature, because it is not up to you why they are in your face.
You didn’t have any control over that, this is geometry. There is no choice in all of that.
You wake up every morning you see the same person, that is love, whether you like it or not.
Because that is the mystery of love, somebody keeps staying there in your geometry.
You don’t know why they are there, you don’t know if they are going to stay, because you don’t know why they came in the first place…
My god, lovers saying, “why me?” to the other. What a joke, “I don’t know, I could make up a reason if you would like. But my bus, it stopped here, the door opened and there you were, period.”
We love it when we meet that way and we ruin it the moment we open our mouths.
That magic of the geometry, and then you know … you don’t like the way your partner looks, or dresses, or talks, you don’t like what they do, you don’t like their taste, you don’t like their smell, the endless things that you discover when you leave your separateness and live in the aura with somebody else.
And you decide you are going to fix all of that otherwise the relationship won’t work, and then you torture yourself, and you torture your partner, how nice.”
~Ra Uru Hu