Need, want, desire, fickleness, expectation …
“The tendency is to confuse needs and wants and falsely equate fickleness with the emotional wave.
The needs of the 19th Gate are foundations of community. They are necessities for life, the need of Food and Shelter.
The need of a secure pair bond based on just principles and the need of territory and community for protection.
There is also the need of spirituality. The 41st Gate is the Root of the Human experiential way.
The carrot of progress is expectation. This is the root of desire and the only limit to the wanting is the imagination. The desire for someone or something is not the same as the need for food and a mate. Need is communal. Wanting is impersonal.
Fickleness is deeply personal.
The individual is designed to be mutative. They operate in a repetitive pulse until mutation and change take place. In that sense they have no control over the perceived timing of a commitment.
They will need and not need as a matter of mood, no choice including the impact of the emotional wave that they can meet. They will want and not want and suffer in indecisiveness the lonely writers of love songs until mutation and knowing happen or not.
It is also something to consider that since none of the channels above the Throat Center are part of Tribal circuitry that the mind is not equipped to guide us in our needs but is great at desire and fickleness.
There are two things as basics to be garnered from all this; one is the importance of language.
[1] To recognize in your own language the confusion between what you express as needs and wants;
[2] the other is acceptance of self.
If you are tribally defined then neediness is not a fault or a problem but your truth [how interesting and contradictory to carry 19/49 AND have Fear Motivation/ Need transference].
If you are individual and fickle accept your mechanics and don’t punish yourself over perceived indecisiveness.
And if you are defined in the abstract Collective, then accept desire as your way and not as a price you are forced to pay.”