Wanting to change someone? Oops 🤭
Even before bumping into Human Design I often said how much I truly appreciate people who are simply being themselves. 🤗
Nothing’s changed there 🙌🏼
That’s not to say that there’s not still moments when how someone ‘is’ can drive me straight up a tree, but I can still respect however that is.
(I just gotta walk away 😆😛 - break that bond, at least temporarily 😊… usually comes with an eyeroll too 😅😅😅)
"My thing about Human Design is that you get to a place where you accept the other for what they are. The most dangerous thing in the world is to want to change somebody.
Everything about the way in which the not-self operates is about that only change is going to make things better. If you change this, it’s going to make it better. If you change that, it’s going to make it better.
And you go on this endless road of changing the upholstery on the furniture, but it's still furniture. Nothing has really happened, and the not-self is so deeply, deeply dissatisfied. It's always looking for change.
So when you end up in relationships, when you look at the typical not-self relationship, everything is about each one thinking about the other in the context of “if,” regardless of how good your relationship is.
"If only he or she were like this or that. If only this could be different. If only they could be different." And it goes on and on and on and on. And it isn't about that.
One of the things that you see in Human Design is that you can't do anything but be what's given.
You are what you are. It's simply there. It’s my joke about ass holes are not made; they’re born. They come into the world that way. Jerks are born. Fools are born. Saints are born. It’s just there.
And the whole thing is that because the not-self is always trying to be what it isn't that you don't get to live out, you don't get to live out the beauty of what’s simply there.
Then when you meet the other as yourself and they’re as themselves, and you can be correct then it doesn't matter whether they’re a jerk. It doesn't. It makes no difference."
Thanks Yenal Işık and Oleksander Vasin