“The security strategy of the 1/3 is to be the Self-provider/Coveter.
Of course, whenever you see a binary like that, you know, one or the other, it’s a movement in life. You’re always moving between those.
You can self-provide at some point for this and yet you can still covet the other. But it’s part of your process, and the deepest theme in that is to be able to provide for oneself.
You know if you’ve got a 1/3 child, make sure from a very early age that you pay them for certain things.
And whatever it happens to be, and whatever minor job they do, because in being able to do that, you give them a healthy sense of their ability to be able to provide for themselves, and it’s very important.
It’s a very difficult thing for the 1st line when it has to be dependent on others. It’s very difficult, and it’s so important for 1st lines to have the opportunity to be able to provide for themselves so that they don’t have to be dependent on others to do their homework, to do their research, to be left alone.
So self-providing is a dominant theme, and this comes with the foundation.
In other words, these are children that need to be educated, and more than that they need to be properly educated into something that can give them a foundation in life, that gives them something to provide them with the potential for being a healthy self-provider.
This is a deep dilemma for women in the 20th century who have the 1/3. It’s a real dilemma because of course they must go out and have a career. It’s very important for them, and that can bring them all kinds of conflicts with the other, because they have their personal destiny, because they’re there to really fulfil their own purpose in this life.
They have to be allowed that opportunity to be their own self- provider without that being a big conflict for them, because otherwise they’re not going to be able to have a healthy relationship with their mate.
At the unconscious level, this is about Humanity. And the humanity is about bonds made and broken.
If you don’t allow a 1/3 to be a self-provider, they’re going to break their bond with you. That’s all! I mean quick, because they need that.
If you come to them and tell them that you’re going to look after them, they’re not going to be very happy with all of that.
Even though you think it’s wonderful, that you want to look after them and care for them and nurture them, they’re not going to find that nice at all, you know, smarmy or something.
What they’re really interested in is in having somebody who appreciates their need to be solid in their own foundation, to be a self-provider, to be able to look after themselves, to be an authority in this life. They really are here to be in charge.
Now, if you look at the 7.1 you’ll see that authority in its detriment – it can really be a sucking child, demanding or whatever.
But the reality is that it’s essential for them to have this sense of authority in their lives and there’s something in this life they really have to know well.
Now again that is something we can nurture in the young 1/3. We can introduce them to things that are solid. We can introduce them to things and show them how the foundation of them works, so that they see that it’s solid – very important thing.
And also to appreciate that if you have a child that’s a 1/3 you have to recognize that they are also going to be moving from one thing to the other. It’s not like they’re going to be staying with one thing very long.
They have to go through their 3rd line process – they have to go through their trial and error – and the things that are going to stimulate them in this life are going to come to them from the outside. After all, they don’t know that it’s there, so it is going to bump into them.
So they will try to get into something, see that it doesn’t work, get out of it.
Now, the longer we stay on this planet, one of the things that we have to learn to accept and honour is everything that has been a part of our life. I mean everything!
There are no mistakes.”
~Ra Uru Hu