I have issues with this list - sorta
Here’s another middle of the night post that landed in FB first, and I don’t want to lose it - plus I wanna make sure there’s a space for this conversation.
We see a lot of chatter about narcissism.
So much so I honestly just wanna shake my head.
More to talk about in that direction some time, but jeez ... can it really be as rampant as so many (mostly) women make it out to be?
Where’s the personal responsibility?
Where’s understanding our own Designs and how it interacts with the people we find ourselves among?
I get that most people haven’t a clue that Human Design even exists, that there’s actually a map (to each of us) that can help us to create a personalized operators manual.
But if you’re here, you do know ... or you’re about to.
So there’s no excuses. 🙃
About this list in the image - read it.
Seems innocent enough right?
But I submit, it’s speaking to people as ‘victims’.
For anyone else reading these bullet points, it’s like “well duh”
Anyway - another long post.
Here’s what I dropped into my FB timeline -
This is a super interesting list to me. And it’s true.
But also, Human Design mechanically speaking, understanding that sometimes the way we feel people are “being around us” isn’t actually about either person.
Not intentionally.
There’s an energetic mechanic.
Between people when they’re in aura range of each other.
We also have our individual Design realities - which also isn’t something for others to take personally.
Sometimes understanding that can be helpful.
Doesn’t mean that person is “for you” (be it partner, friend or client) - whether you’re literally suffering or your Mind thinks it is (and the cause of it is “out there”), or not - it’s entirely important to be selective in how we spend our energy - physical, mental, emotional.
What it does mean though is, you can possibly get to see and learn an awful lot about them, about yourself, about being human.
The white spaces in your chart are the places we get to see the excesses that aren’t “us” and are possibly the amplification of the people we spend time with (even at work! I’m talking physical time and space - not social connection)
And guess what else, the same can be true on the other side of the coin - what’s white in them can be amplifying what’s colored in on your own chart.
How’s that for a thought. 🤔
I’ll be the first to admit that it can be so tricky to see when we’re in the thrall of it.
In the notself trap of the openness (again, most easily witnessed in the white bits, but the colored parts can be affected and conditioned this way too).
We do, after all, have only the benefit of seeing Life through our own personal (Design) lens.
It’s not always anyone’s “fault”.
Experiment with stepping and being out of aura (lots!) from other people.
And consider the notself questions for these white areas.
I can put them in a Locals
post if I haven’t already and link that below later.
Point is -
Personal acceptance and responsibility and SEEING our own openness playing out - can be huge.
And offer a lot of forgiveness and space to be ... just BE .... for everyone.
Mechanics aren’t personal. ❤️
I appreciate you - just the way you are.
Geez 🙃 now I’m sounding like Mister Rogers - it’s funny to think about what an interesting impact that man had on my life.
How we’re conditioned early sure matters.
How we come to look at it (or if we don’t) as adults, matters more.
Because that was then.
And this is now.
The biggest pressures to live a life that isn’t “ours” is in that whiteness.
Discovering who we are - huge.
Discovering who we are not - waaayyy huger.
Andrea 💕
PS. back to this list - are you being that person ... for yourself?? 🙂
Ooh ... ouch, eh??
Which one(s) stand out for you 🤔