Life gets a whole lot easier when we can accept people as they are ❤️ - ourselves too 🤗
Particularly when it comes to partnership and parenting. I share a bit of my own experience with that below.
Ra had this to say (about his own parenting adventure):
“There is no more powerful thing than the theme of frustration. It is the not-Self world of the Generator.
We all live in a deep, deep frustration field; all of humanity. Those that are not sacral are amplifying the frustration field.
And when you are dealing with parenting and you deal with Generators you have to recognize the depth of frustration that is a potential.
I have the deepest sympathy for Projector mothers. It has been my experience to see that these are beings that regardless of their vitality or their intelligence [when unaware of the mechanics] are devastated by the experience of having Generator children.
I have seen that they carry a level of physical exhaustion in their body and a level of frustration that is really profound.
If you scratch the surface of any Projector mother that has a Generator child, it’s not so much that she wishes she wouldn’t have that child, she just wishes her child was 40 and out of the house.
You can postcards and have telephone calls, but the reality is that if the mother is not protected by the understanding of what she will have to deal with in having a Generator child, that these are the mothers that suffer the most.
These are the ones that are most distressed, psychologically [and physically] distressed by the whole process, and obviously this goes very deeply into the very relationship, into the child, I mean, when you know about auras you understand how this works.
I have met many more Projector mothers than Reflector or Manifestor mothers, and dealing with not-Self Projectors mothers it happens often that they mate with Generators man [the genetic imperative of the program at work - plus sexual energy is born in the sacral after all]
And not only have they the exhaustion of [engaging with] their Generator children, but they have to deal also with the exhaustion of [engaging with] their Generator partners. And they have the frustration that comes with both.
And it is something to keep in mind: you have to heal the mothers first, there is no other way. They are the whole focus point.
If you are not a sacral being you are not [naturally] equipped to deal with sacral children. You don’t know how – you have to learn how.
Somebody has to teach you how to deal with that, what the boundaries are for you, how that can work for you, because it is exceedingly difficult [the point here is to seek help, not let this sow fear imho - he could be a bit hyperbolic - but also remember: Personal View]
And I met so many Projector mothers that were in such deep crisis, you know, people that carried levels of pain that I had never encountered in a mother, that had nothing to do with the love of their children, the love of their partners, whatever it may be, it was a mystery to them.
And yet when you are experience these levels of exhaustion, frustration and crisis, it leads you to resenting, it leads you all such things that [can] gain so much power and bring so much pain in, the break-ups of relationships and all of these things.
So I’m really glad for the Generator children to be in the world, but I know my limitation as a non-sacral being, I truly know. I only can go so far with them. They are not my kind.
I do the best I can because I am aware, but they are not my kind.
It’s my Generator partner that generates with them [lucky him 🙄].
They have a rhythm that is unique, they have a relationship that is unique and it’s very different than the relationship with me because I am non-sacral.
And I know how frustrating it can be, because I lived the frustration of being a non-sacral parent with three Generator children.
How frustrating it can be to ask my child to do something and he’ll go “Aha” (positive respond), and then? He is a 15-5, he has his own rhythm, it can take him an hour, you know, and this guy got 5 activations in the 38 and 39 gates. And I ask him to do something and he says yes and ten minutes later it’s not done and he is doing something else.
And I ask “but I ask you to do….and I thought you said yeah?” “yeah, yeah, you wait, Manifestor father.”
And of course he knows that I don’t wait since I am a Manifestor father, so whatever it is that I ask him and he didn’t do, I do myself. And he is doing the thing that he was doing in between that got him up to get him moving, and I know that frustration!
Inside you are going “I’m gonna kill him! I got enough!” (Hahaha) But I understand the process, and I also understand what that is that is moving through me.
Remember, the deepest teaching for us is that we never leave the Maya and we never leave our connection to the not-Self. I can never leave my open centres behind.
I take in his Sacral, I take in his emotional system into my body and I feel the frustration. There is nothing that I can do about that.
The only thing I can do is that I take care that it doesn’t condition my authority.
That it doesn’t become a mental trip.
That I don’t react to that with artificial authority.
I don’t, but the frustration is there.
And then I think “Oh my God, what is that like for the un-initiated, the unaware, the parent that loves their child, you know, the parent that is non-sacral, that wakes up in the morning with a depression that is so profound that it is unbelievable, that can’t tolerate the frustration any more, that can’t tolerate the tightness that it brings?” - I mean, we have to help the mothers!
When we help the mothers we help the children, that’s the way it works.”
Here’s a comment I added to the Chaitanya thread I found this Ra quote on:
“YES 🙌🏼
Hubs is non-nurturing and I completely am (wired that way) - I raised the kids. Perhaps the thing that saved me was the years in between their arrivals.
Two of our three are sacral and emotionally defined and hubs (as I think you already know) … a sacral Gen.
His life changed too (for the better imho) when it was down to just my emotional definition in our home Penta. So its been good to understand that it’s not just sacral definition that can be the source of havoc to the unaware eh?
#3 (a self P) is the youngest and remains home. Good thing, he’s effortless, ‘cause I’m not sure he’ll ever leave. 🙃
The first 2 (an MG and a Gen) - both moved out a couple years ago (one to her life and the other to college) …
#2, the college one is home for the summer right now and I can so relate to what he’s said here about “how it is” through knowing her.
Lovely person. Willing do-er. Big fat fluffy aura. Exhausting and distracting for me - (her 5/15 is such a presence, her 4th line so … friendly) - tiring to be around for long stretches.
💯 it’s a better success for me when she’s off happily building her life. Calling when she needs something. I never call. Silence = she’s satisfied. It works better that way.
Yes their childhoods had magic in them … it was a beautiful thing … and now … freedom 🤗”
Middle kiddo is the one who brought me flowers yesterday 🥹🥰❤️
I sidestepped bitterness by then directing her to the vase finding, washing, filling and the end trimming, arranging. I guided her first to the wrong tool and the to the right one also (hello 3rd line), taught her to strip all the leaves that would be submerged otherwise.
All of which she happily participated in - she and her MG boyfriend did it together. Gen husband, who was sitting at the patio table with me when they arrived was interested in the additive they include to put in the water, so he did that part. I added a quick swirl of the water to help it dissolve.
And we even got a mini bouquet in the process of all that (things that would normally have been discarded) … I took that project on - way better scale for me, plus the prep work was already done.
Yeah, left to all that doing on my own, there would have been a pall of bitterness/exhaustion/frustration over the thoughtful gift.
This way - only satisfaction and success.
❤️
PS. Yes I did ultimately trim down that yellow flower sticking out there on the left 🙃🤓
@Carizma22 3/5 splenic P, has said yes to sharing this 😍
I love it when I get to be privy to an ‘experiment progress report’ from one of our Locals members.
Wanna celebrate with me? 🥳🤩🙌🏽
This next one is a tale of Carole’s undefined solar plexus adventures, originally posted in a Projector fb group.
Cool witnessing Carole! 🤗
Thread gist in comments (screenshots) and a somewhat messy screen grab video of the video recommended in one of the OP comments she received included below (above?🤓)
And there’s a short video of @BeyondBeautiful and me first talking about “avoiding confront and truth” which includes a story I often have told about John and the very first real time glimpse I saw this undefined solar plexus dealie irl. Can find.
Blew my mind.
I know there are several splenic Authority folks in here, maybe you have stories to share too?
"Some ideas take decades"
This is pretty inspiring. She reckons she's finally finished her apprenticeship at 70 💜
Fun add-on HD irl example - this was shared in Vanessa's group on FB, The Art of Being You by another appreciative group member (thank you Kathrin 🤗), and I first watched it a few hours ago.
I immediately thought what a great share it would be in here 🤩 but it landed pretty quickly on my 'roundtooit list.
Maybe to get shared here, maybe not. Tbh, the hold up was that I didn't really want to share a FB link in here, so I was looking (investigating) around to see if it was on another platform.
Hadn't found it yet.
Then it turns out that @NaimR wasn't able to view it from Canada (someone is blocking it for Canada ? wha?) and she said as much on the thread in Vanessa's group.
And you know what kicks in?
My Design (19/49 and Markets internal in particular), which had me heading this way anyway - at some point ... maybe... but I always get a little boost of focus from ...
There were three roller coasters 🎢 we had on or radar for the last hour before the rides closed.
Wasn’t to be, but we did find this nice place to sit and wait out the deluge that started right after we grabbed a great smoked BBQ supper.
And ooh it cooled everything off perfectly. And gave us some rest before we found our way back to the car (which was parked on the very first row of priority parking 🥳)
Ahhhh nothing to do, so much nothing to do 🥳🥰🍿
This is a post and audio from @BeyondBeautiful - Valerie Montgomery, Self Projected Projector
"I wanted to make this breakfast and found myself rushing.
Now, you might be interested to know I have Alternating Determination, which means I need to do things “One Thing At A Time,” which turns out to be the title of the song I made up to shift the energy of starting to make this breakfast.
I also have an Undefined Root, so it always feels like I need to get rid of the pressure. Also known as feeling rushed to do things.
It would have been lovely to have my cat fix my breakfast, and I had the time, so..
Also being Self Projected my authority comes out through my speaking, or in this case, singing."
Great awareness and share, thank you Valerie! 💜Not sure that's the right title for this, but it's what came out so I'm rolling with it.
This story began in a FB group. Where many of my stories do.
I can't actually remember the thread or how we ended up in messenger, but the reason we did was because 5/1 Projector with Gate 1 on an undefined G center ... had music of hers to share but hasn't been able to share it so far.
Am still waiting to see if the rest of the story gets shared with me.
So she asked me what sort of music I liked and did I want something more abstract (I think it was) or a vocal cover. I chose vocal cover and she picked this one.
I felt it to my core.
Not sure if part of that was related to some of what she'd already (not intentionally) told me ... 5th line folks can take a lot of patience to draw out - that's been my experience so far anyway.
Some feel interesting enough to spend the energy on :) That's true here.
A kind of sidenote to this is that both my Uranus Opposition (40ish yo) and Chiron (50ish yo) charts carry a 3/5 and it feels like, though I'm not a 5th line - I do sort of get ...
Dave Myers
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1HyKBE9tpm/?mibextid=wwXIfr
Here he is over on TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@neutrinoradio?_t=ZT-8u1npsHczms&_r=1
Yesterday, @mellijae shared a graphic from 64Keys and it reminded me that there's a hashtag in here for #theplanets
Here's a direct search link -
https://planetandrea.locals.com/?search=%23theplanets
If you're interested in planetary placements in your chart - those 11 posts are a great place to begin. :)
by Richard Rudd
"There is one big key to understanding Projectors, and it can only be found by looking at the bigger picture.
We know that statistically, Projectors make up 21% of the population. That means that for every five people, more or less, there is one Projector.
Those are interesting numbers, especially when they are considered within the context of how Gene Pools operate.
There is a mysterious circuit within the Bodygraph that is curiously known as the WA. The WA holds the secret to the choreography of all human gene pools.
One day, when these aspects of Human Design are explored in more depth, we will be able to see how groupings of individual designs come together in the same way as cells bind together to create the organs within our bodies.
For those who baulk at the idea that we have no choice, this is frightening stuff.
The WA shows how different human designs are collectively organised and herded together to perform certain functions within the greater body of humanity.
Imagine then, that humanity is a body like your own body. There are only 4 types of cells, each with their own sub-programming.
At one extreme, you have a small amount of ‘rogue’ cells, independent bodies that are designed to operate outside the loop of the mainframe programming. Ironically however, these manifestor cells are just as dependent upon the whole as any other type. They are simply programmed to appear independent.
At the other extreme, you have a tiny percentage of early-warning cells – these unusual cells have no programming of their own but are designed to take accurate readings of any cellular environment they move through.
In every sub-culture you will find a few of these cells reflecting the health of the local environment. Their role is to warn the overall intelligence of the body of any potential disruptions to the organism. They are called reflector cells.
The bulk of the cellular life of the body (91%) is made up of the two most common kinds of cell – generator cells and projector cells.
These 2 types are designed to interlock with each other. The generator cells collectively create the life of the organism. They are pure energy cells buzzing day and night, maintaining and building the whole.
Projector cells are unique. They have no propulsion of their own, so they drift around on the endless energy currents created by the generator cells.
You might imagine how easy it would be for a projector cell to feel that it had no purpose within the body.
However, each projector cell actually has a very specific purpose (some have more than one), but that purpose can only be realised when certain energy cells (generators) dock in with the projector cell to receive instructions.
Since the projector has no propulsion, it is powerless to initiate this process, but has to allow the generator cells to recognise them and dock in within their own timing. This recognition process takes place through a coded lock and key programme built into these 2 types at birth.
In other words, every projector holds multiple keys that fit an enormous array of locks. When a key does not fit a lock it is very obvious!
Through the knowledge of the WA, we know that the basic genetic unit is 5. These human groupings of mainly generators and projectors are also known as ‘Pentas’.
The nuclear family is a family of five.
Statistically, that is four generators and one projector. As an archetype, the role of this fifth projector is to maintain the stability of the 4 generators.
Right, this next part is where it gets spooky, so hang on to your seats and try and stay with me!…
Just as this fifth projector draws together the 4 generators to form a penta, this penta then takes on a life of its own. It also seeks something greater to dock into, and this is known as an OC16.
Pentas (groups of 5 human beings) seek out another projector, known as an alpha. Alpha projectors naturally dock together with three pentas, making 16 people (including the alpha).
The moment you have 16 people together, you actually have the foundation of an entire gene pool, which then continues to grow exponentially.
Right. I am going to stop there. Whether you were able to follow any of that or not, I am trying to make a point – which is that if you are a projector, you are genetically coded to have others (specifically generators) recognise you and approach you.
This is the foundation of the success of humanity as a species. The projector’s role is pivotal for life to be coherently organised.
But there is a great irony to it all for the projector – which is that there is nothing for them to do until they are recognised.
Every projector knows when the key fits. Every cell in their body lights up.
They also know when it only ‘sort of’ fits.
Those are the critical moments for projectors. If the fit is not perfect, they have to smile sweetly and turn away.
So how long does a projector have to wait? Well, forever.
There is a deep secret for projectors going through their deconditioning – that is, waiting itself transforms the cells.
The relief of not trying to make keys fit when they do not want to fit, releases a huge pressure from the projector’s life.
But it is also clear from my own experience of observing projectors that they are not always able to immediately throw away keys that do not fit.
Sometimes those keys may provide their livelihood, and they have to hold on to them until they find the correct keys to replace them. That takes courage – to wait knowing something is wrong and you are powerless to change it.
I have a vast admiration for any projector going through their deconditioning, and I have also learned that I can never move forward in life without the presence of projectors in key roles around me.
Projectors, if you cannot be patient, there is no hope for any of us…"
This is a little outside of my 'care' zone, but can see the things we've trusted faltering.
I think Human Design is here to offer people awareness to be able to weather what would otherwise feel like impossibly stormy times.
Lucky us 🤗
Also, what a cool picture Chaitanya found 😍
- A
"The knowledge was given so that human beings could be equipped to live in an age in which there was nothing they could trust.
This is what the Cross of Planning has brought us. It’s brought us an age of, within reason, trust.
That the trains will run on time, that the electricity will be there, that all of those things will work, that our children will have teachers in their schools, that the garbage will be picked up and on and on and on.
All the things that the Cross of Planning has brought us, the institutionalization of science and the spreading of all kinds of technologies that enhance the potential for the increase in human population, the increase in the potential of the gene pool, the increase in the potential for the unusual, the mutative.
Human Design is not about the time of the Cross of Planning. Human Design knows the plan. It’s not about that at all. It's about bringing the possibility of the richness of life to the next generation.
If the stellar family teaches us anything it’s that even the gods, even the remotest forces in the stream are concerned about the generations and the movement of information.
There are certain stars in the sky that could not exist until other stars had died. The fact that human beings and certain brain functions, elements in our brain, that can only exist after the death of stars, we are so deeply connected to them. We live very close to one. That is our shelter and our light."
- Ra Uru Hu
