Simple Split Definitions vs Wide Split
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Everything about the split definition is that they're here to teach relating.
"The split definition with a single bridge [a one gate gap between definition areas] tells the partner how to relate.
The split definition that is broad/wide [a full channel or more gap] is waiting for the partner to learn to give them what they need.
“I'm missing something. You can bring it to me.”
Now, this is very important. This is not about saying to your partner, “This is what you need to do to be better at relating,” this is the other side.
“This is what I need from you to make this relationship work.” It’s very different.
So, it’s saying to this other, “I need intimacy from you. If I don't have intimacy from you, our relationship can't work.”
It's not, “There's something wrong with you, that you're not intimate,” or all of that. It has nothing to do with that. It’s totally different because it's correct now.
And what it’s saying to the other is, “Look, I need this from you. If you can’t give me this, it’s not going to work.” And it’s their truth.
Everything about the split definition is that they're here to teach relating. But they do it in different ways.
The single bridge split says that you’ve got to be able to DO this.
The broad/wide split says you’ve got to be able to GIVE this.
We have an enormous problem in the nature of communion.
Human beings operating out of mental authorities are full of fears.
Relationships … [and] whether they are going to succeed or fail, can be very threatening."
~Ra Uru Hu
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