“The gods when they give you a gift, they don't give you everything. They give you something. And other things you can't have. If you try to get them, you lose everything.
For me it's very clear that in certain relationships, Compromise is a sign that says, “Don't ruin this.” That's all. It's so clear to me. That's my perspective. It doesn't mean that everything you are HAS to integrate in a relationship. Any triple-split will tell you that. You don't have to have it all integrated. I don't have to get stuck in the Compromises. I can just see the relationship beyond that.
Of course, that really is my point. I don't think the attempt to bargain, the attempt to make a statement from your hanging gate is going to bring anything other than continued, frustration, bitterness, anger, depending on your Type, because the fact is, the defined person is going to run that way and there's nothing one can do.
They don't have any other way to be. It isn't that they won't listen to you or even think, ok, maybe that. But the fact of the matter is they're just going to do it their way. They just will. That's the thing that makes Compromise so infuriating. Yes, you can try all those. I've gone through a whole long process of trying to understand this dynamic because for me it's at the very center of the problem of human beings being able to really be comfortable with each other. It lies in Compromise."