THE UNDEFINED SOLAR PLEXUS ISSUE: WHAT DO YOU MEAN I DON'T HAVE FEELINGS?!!!
Ooh - This just gave me a peek into content possibilities for the new website (I finally - says my Mind lol - started poking around at it on Sunday - yay!)
Richard Rudd wrote -
“Perhaps one of the greatest discoveries that have emerged through the Human Design System is that, emotionally speaking; there are only two types of people in the world.
One of them is from Mars and the other is from Venus.
We always assumed that women and men were emotionally different, but it turns out that you can be a man and be from Venus and you can be a woman and be from Mars!
The revelation of the defined centre and the undefined centre has massive implications.
We are all victims of generalisation.
Nowhere is this truer than in our emotional lives.
The solar plexus centre has the greatest social impact on our planet.
For one thing, it is responsible for violence and war.
Thus, whenever I am face to face with an undefined solar plexus centre coming for their first Human Design reading I always feel rather out of my depth.
The information I am about to give them about themselves is going to shake the very bedrock of who they think they are.
Their whole life they will have been identifying with the emotions that they feel.
I know that it is probably going to take them years to disentangle all their emotional patterns.
It may take even longer if they have been working with a therapist, unless they are fortunate enough to have found a therapist who has learned not to interfere with people's designs.
This is the issue of this article - how to tell people that they have no feelings of their own.
If we are to make such outrageous and potentially dangerous statements, we had better be able to back them up with understanding and experience.
Personally, I would never tell someone such a thing, but try to find a way to draw them into the workings of their own design and let them discover it for themselves.
Having no feelings of your own is too much fuel for the not-self.
If you think you have no feelings, it gives you a license to abuse, blame and manipulate anyone you like.
I can hear the court-case now: 'Your Honour, it wasn't me that killed him. It was his feelings that made me!'
A recent question from a student of mine was: 'I know two people with undefined emotional centres (the centre remains undefined together) and they fight like crazy all the time.
How is this possible?'
The answer is simple - it wasn't them who were fighting - it was their parents.
If you have an undefined solar plexus and you know something of Human Design, I implore you to look at the designs of your parents.
If neither of them happens to be emotionally defined, it was probably your grandparents. Someone other than you is responsible for your patterns and it is never your fault.
That is the sentence that has to sink deeply into the cells of your body. It isn't your fault.
The undefined emotional centre is a dumping ground for emotional garbage.
I am reminded of Phillip Larkin's famous poem:
‘They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.’
The point is that it isn't even your Mum and Dad's fault either. It is simply the way conditioning works in a world where we don't know who we are.
There is no blame and there is no need of shame, but most undefined emotional centres are filled with both.
The undefined emotional centre is so sensitive to the feelings of others that it unconsciously learns deep behavioural patterns that try to keep it away from the emotions of others.
Its prime pattern is to avoid conflict at all cost, and there are many ways of avoiding conflict - denial, withdrawal and pre-emptive attack being just a few.
The other irony is a deep Freudian truth that I have seen over and over again through my HD practice.
We seek out the same patterns in our relationships as we had with our parents.
We may chose intimacies that look totally new, but the chemistry turns out to be the same, and the very thing we are trying to escape is the thing we find ourselves caught in.
For the undefined solar plexus centre, this is all a huge journey.
You have to learn how to hold your own space.
You have to learn not to blame and not to hide, which means that you have to catch yourself in mid-pattern and accept that pattern without trying to change it.
If you are still avoiding, then you are still a victim.
Only when you have begun to clean out your own insides from your old patterns can you begin the delicate process of extricating yourself from the emotional patterns of others.
At this stage, that is as deep as I am prepared to go into a minefield.
My overall point is that if you have an undefined solar plexus centre, the mines are not outside yourself.
They are not people with emotionally defined centres.
Whoever you are with will activate the mines because they are inside you.
The mines were planted a long time ago in the first seven years of your life, and those mines have to be individually cleared and dug up.
The good news is that once they are gone, they are gone forever!”
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